Dating direct tips
No, Really: Avoid the Boss According to HR consultant Laurie Ruettimann, most written policies prohibit employees from dating only a direct boss or subordinate. Experts spoke with discourage manager-subordinate romances because they create the perception (or reality) of favoritism; in a worst-case scenario, both parties could be fired or dragged through a harassment lawsuit.
And women are disproportionately judged for these relationships, whether they're the boss—"With great power comes great responsibility," warns Green—or if they're the underling.
"Nowadays work and life are very integrated." In that light, these stats aren't surprising: 37 percent of people have dated a coworker, according to a 2015 survey by Career Builder, and 30 percent of those relationships ended in marriage (proving that an office romance is not always a disaster).
Still, dating at work can be a personal and professional minefield.
If you ask repeatedly, says Green, you risk creating a hostile work environment for your crush, which can be defined as harassment.
And if a colleague asks you out and won't take no for an answer, that may be harassment, and you should consider talking to HR. If you make out with someone at the holiday party, bite the bullet and ask about the person's intentions afterward.
Here's the rule: You get only one shot at asking out a coworker.
Jessica, 25, an antiques expert who moved across the country and, basically, in with a coworker, eventually realized that the relationship-job combo was dominating her new life.
"I hadn't made any female friends, and I missed that," she recalls.
"I hate to be the legal buzzkill here, but these relationships can create problems," says Lisa Green, an employment lawyer and the author of spoke with real-life office daters and workplace experts to devise the ultimate dating-at-work survival plan.
Because seriously, where else are you going to meet someone these days?